The day you died, I made a promise to myself I would never ever think about you or talk about you to anyone, not even to myself. You never existed that’s how I wanted things to be, your existence erased from my life.
Because your death broke me, not like I wasn’t broken before but your death broke whatever it was left of my heart. You were my safe place to land, you saw me for what I am and not for what I needed to be.
Now after years of your death, here iam going through the album’s to just find one picture of you, grandpa. There are not many pictures of you because you never liked anyone taking your pictures, guess what I don’t like taking my pictures too but for different reasons.
I still remember the last day of that vacation we were getting ready to go home but you told us to ‘stay’ like somehow you knew you were going to die. but we couldn’t stay because we had school, but trust me I didn’t want to return to that hellhole, all I wanted was to stay with you forever.
Then the worst thing happened two days after, uncle called to tell us that you were hospitalized. When we came to the hospital you were sleeping grandpa, there were so many tubes connected to your body that it scared the hell out of me. We were not allowed to see you, we could only watch you through the glass door. But the only thing I wanted to do was be close to you when you sleep.
Do you remember grandpa you had a habit of sleeping at afternoon, but before you go to sleep you would turn on the radio and make me sing and dance to the songs and then after when you fall asleep I would sit there beside you waiting for you to wake up again.
When I saw you in that hospital bed I wanted to come and sit beside you till you woke up, but I couldn’t.
After two days they told us you were going to be ok and you can come home. I wanted to come see you at the hospital, but they told me that I could see him when he comes home. I was so happy that night. But everything was ruined when I woke up the next morning.
I saw my mom and her sisters crying and grandma was motionless, no one had to tell me what happened I just knew you were gone, just gone.
So I took a bath and put my hair in a ponytail, you loved my hair like that, you used to say, “Don’t hide your face from me aami.” Iam sorry grandpa but all I do now is hide my face.
When they bought you to the house I couldn’t help but cry even though I told myself I need to be strong. When my cousin brother saw me crying you know what he told me? “ stop your fake tears it’s not your father who is dead it’s your grandfather.” if only he knew what you were to me. I loved you more than I would ever love my parents, more than anyone else.
After your death, I hated you for a long time. I hated that you left me alone in this cruel world. But then I realized it’s not your death that hurts so much, everyone has to die one day, it’s the fact that I didn’t get to say goodbye. I didn’t get to wait beside your bed, to see you wake up. I didn’t get to hear you call me aami for the last time.
Now when I look back I wish I stayed with you, the day you asked me to stay.